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posted by [personal profile] kalpurna at 07:21pm on 14/04/2009
I had a really frustrating day, the kind where you're reminded over and over again that male = default and women's concerns are specialty concerns and there's a solid mainstream of scholarly opinion that says you should consider arguments objectively and not allow yourself to be at all affected by the flaming misogyny poking around every corner of nearly every text. A lack of concern, of course, which equates to you pretending (just one more time, just for this one text, just for this one class) that you're NOT a woman and shouldn't ever let yourself think like one. Fuck you, social theory teacher, fuck you, patriarchy, fuck you, dude in my class who got so horribly and vocally offended that I suggested he might have something called "privilege". And of course meanwhile I have not only a head cold, but also vicious menstrual cramps and PMS, because there's nothing like a sense of irony to get you through the day when you're a political minority. I mentioned the cold at the end of the argument to defuse tension; I didn't mention the time of month. I'm not a moron.

I could, if I chose, find some irony in the fact that I immediately came home and vented my rage by cleaning the entire kitchen in victory curls and a fluffy white skirt and mopping the floor twice, and am now about to start baking an apple pie in a frilly floral apron, but fuck you: I see no irony, APPLE PIE IS DELICIOUS, AND YOU COULD EAT OFF MY DAMN FLOOR.

*steams from the ears*
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posted by [identity profile] entropical87.livejournal.com at 12:59am on 15/04/2009
I want to point them to the sheer concept of "women's studies." Do we have a male equivalent of this? YES. AND IT IS CALLED "EVERYTHING ELSE." The simple fact that we have to give it a specific name is example of embedded sexism indicating male as the norm. This is what we know as PRIVILEGE. (I feel like I need to load that down with caveats, but I'm too lazy to do so. Just imagine that they're there.)

Dear fuckwitted dudes: No srsly, YOU try looking at shit like this objectively when you live it every fucking day and let me know how that goes for you. Fuck you. Fuck you a whole bunch.

*hugs you a lot* I hope your apple pie is made of deliciousness.
 
posted by [identity profile] inminiature.livejournal.com at 01:08am on 15/04/2009
hey, but I love you! so that's cool. and that dude with the privilege - he can now feel bad because he doesn't have the privilege of hot ladies with PIE. douchebag.
 
posted by [identity profile] violin-road.livejournal.com at 01:21am on 15/04/2009
HANNAH HELP it seems you understand excellent vintage hair SO my hair is being a) stupid and b) extra-curly and i am going out tonight WHAT DO I DO TO IT.

also i have a complaint about the patriarchy but all i will say here is >>>>:(


would you like a cashew? i bought some in bulk :D (if you are allergic please ignore this)
 
posted by [identity profile] violin-road.livejournal.com at 03:01am on 15/04/2009
OKAY I HAVE FIXED MY HAIR


ALSO UU SOME PIE PLZ
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posted by [identity profile] kalpurna.livejournal.com at 10:31pm on 21/04/2009
SORRY I WAS OFF BAKING AND DIDN'T HELP YOUR HAIR :( :( I BET IT WAS SUPER CUTE ANYWAYS
 
posted by [identity profile] shoemaster.livejournal.com at 01:24am on 15/04/2009
PP of your hair! and gimme that pie.

and >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>:( to male privilege.
 
posted by [identity profile] shihadchick.livejournal.com at 01:29am on 15/04/2009
Rarrrrrrrrrrrrr, FUCKERS.

*supports your rage, lusts for the pie because PIE* ...but mostly I am supporting your rage. Because MEH, life. :/
 
posted by [identity profile] impertinence.livejournal.com at 01:59am on 15/04/2009
PUNCH PATRIARCHY IN THE NUTS.

om nom nom pie.
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posted by [identity profile] wemblee.livejournal.com at 02:01am on 15/04/2009
How fucking frustrating. *high fives you, 'cause you're awesome*
 
posted by [identity profile] bkm5191.livejournal.com at 12:11pm on 15/04/2009
apple pie is delicious.

I'm sick of having to pretend tat because things are better than they were (says who?) that we shouldn't point out that things still suck now.
 
posted by [identity profile] meritjubet.livejournal.com at 01:13pm on 15/04/2009
Fuck indeed. I remember being the only person to raise my hand in a class when we were asked who was a feminist. Someone commented that since she had never experienced sexism she didn't feel that there was a need for feminism any more. I gaped just a little.

Apple pie is delicious.
 
posted by [identity profile] sybaryte.livejournal.com at 06:31am on 18/01/2011
Hey, sorry for replying to something that you posted a while ago but I'm only reconnecting with the interwebs properly now. I just wanted to tell you that I completely share your frustration! A similar thing happened to me.

I was in a Political Science seminar and we were discussing whether our duality of law is fair and just. You see, here in South Africa we have a conventional Roman-Dutch legal system with courts, magistrates and judges and we also allow a tribal law system to co exist alongside it. The tribal law courts has one elder presiding, the elder has to be male. A woman, even if she has a grievance and lives in a rural area far from any source of 'western justice' may still not be heard in tribal court - unless she can find a man willing to represent her.

I mean this in the most literal way, she may not speak in court at all. So if she were raped, or dispossessed (not that black women are allowed to own property in tribal law) etc, she would have to find a man willing to represent her and then hope that he does her case justice. This, in the country with the highest rape statistics in the world.

And when I suggested that tribal law was a) patriarchal and b) unfairly discriminatory toward women, I got shouted down by some angry male. Who then also called me racist and told me that I didn't understand because I didn't belong to a tribe.

I have no idea what my response was going to be but I'm pretty sure it was furious. I didn't get a chance to repond, though, because my lecturer refused to brook ad hominem attacks and made him leave. I think the fact that the lecturer was female may have had something to do with it :P

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